Many autistic and neurodivergent children grow up carrying deep shame about their differences—shame that can limit confidence, contribute to anxiety and depression, and prevent them from reaching their full potential. This workshop provides tools and strategies for navigating day-to-day challenges while fostering confidence and self-acceptance in children. We’ll explore how internalized and societal ableism can shape a child’s self-perception, and how adults can counter these messages through affirming, everyday interactions. Topics include understanding what a child’s behavior is trying to communicate, responding in balanced and supportive ways, navigating demand avoidance, and developing individualized approaches that meet each child’s unique needs. We’ll also explore ways to talk with children about neurodiversity, the role of diagnosis in identity development, identifying affirming providers, and using practical tools to build confidence and self-understanding. Designed for parents, caregivers, educators, and professionals who support neurodivergent children, this session offers grounded, evidence-based strategies to help children grow up confident and resilient.

Objectives

• Identify how internalized and societal ableism influence a child’s self-perception and describe strategies adults can use to counter shame-based messages through everyday affirming interactions.

• Interpret the underlying communication behind common behaviors and apply balanced, supportive responses that reduce stress and strengthen connection.

• Develop individualized approaches for navigating demand avoidance and daily challenges that honor a child’s sensory, emotional, and cognitive needs.

• Practice ways to talk with children about neurodiversity and identity, including how to use diagnosis as a tool for self-understanding, choose affirming providers, and support confidence and resilience over time.